Motherhood and Parenting Quietly Change the Equation to Your “Progress”
When Motivation Changes …
In my last blog post When Motivation Disappears but Capacity Remains, I talked about why capable, self-aware adults lose their spark and what actually helps them find direction again. Our seasons of life also impact this. One of the biggests impacts and shifts come during motherhood and fatherhood. This can also be a beautiful season when you learn how to make changes, let go, and know what the inner you is needing to show up as a parent along with the other areas of life.
When Motherhood and Parenting Quietly Change the Equation
For many adults, motivation doesn’t disappear in isolation—it shifts alongside parenthood.
Motherhood and parenting reshape time, identity, priorities, and the nervous system in profound ways. Even when you deeply love your children, the internal fuel that once drove you can feel harder to access.
This doesn’t always come from crisis. Often, it comes from accumulation:
Years of being needed before being known
Holding emotional, logistical, and mental labor simultaneously
Living in a state of constant responsiveness
Making decisions based on what’s best for everyone else first
Many parents tell me, quietly and with guilt, “I don’t recognize how I move through my days anymore.”
This isn’t a failure of gratitude or resilience. It’s what happens when your inner world hasn’t had space to reorganize after life fundamentally changed.
Motivation often softens during this season not because something is wrong but because your system is asking for a different pace, a different definition of success, and a different relationship with yourself.
I’m going to dive further into this in upcoming blog posts. So keep following along, join the newsletter or schedule a call to discuss how I can support you in this season of life.
