You Don’t Have to Fall Behind to Fall Apart
A permission slip for the unraveling woman.
There’s a quiet kind of unraveling happening behind closed doors.
In cars parked in driveways.
In bedrooms after bedtime routines.
In the hearts of women who have held it together for too long.
And maybe that woman is you.
You’ve always been the strong one. The go-to. The doer.
The one who makes the appointments, plans the meals, holds the emotional weight of the household, and still shows up at work with a half-smile and a packed calendar.
But lately... something’s shifted.
You feel like you’re falling apart.
Crying for no reason. Snapping. Numbing out. Wondering if anyone notices that you’re not okay.
And underneath it all, there’s a whisper.
“I don’t want to live like this anymore.”
If you're a woman in your 30s, 40s, or beyond—especially in Cape May County, South Jersey, Philly, or wherever you're reading from—hear me now:
You’re not broken.
You’re becoming.
And you do not have to fall behind to fall apart.
The Sacred Space of the In-Between
Our culture praises the hustle, the comeback, the productivity.
But what about the in-between?
The sacred pause before the breakthrough?
The quiet, messy middle where nothing makes sense—but everything is shifting?
As a licensed therapist and global life coach based in South Jersey, I work with women around the world—high-achieving, soul-led women—who are done pretending.
They’re burned out. Overwhelmed. Tired of living lives that look good on the outside but feel empty on the inside.
They are:
Mothers and caregivers who feel like they’re losing themselves
Executives and entrepreneurs hiding their anxiety behind success
Women in transitions—divorce, career change, becoming moms, or simply growing tired of performing
Single moms by choice (like me), trying to balance it all while holding deep grief, joy, and longing
And they all ask me some version of the same thing:
“Can I let go without losing everything?”
Yes. You Can Break Down Without Burning Out
Falling apart isn’t a weakness. It’s a wisdom.
It’s your soul saying, “This life no longer fits.”
But here’s what no one tells you:
You don’t need to bounce back immediately.
You don’t need to pretend you're okay.
You don’t need to “keep up” with a version of yourself you’ve outgrown.
You just need to give yourself permission to unravel.
Because unraveling is often the first step to becoming whole.
5 Truths Every Unraveling Woman Needs to Hear
You’re Not Falling Behind - You’re Falling Into Alignment
Slowing down isn’t lazy. It’s wise.
Pausing to recalibrate isn’t failure—it’s strategy.
Your nervous system knows the truth before your mind does.
You’re Allowed to Not Know the Next Step
This is liminal space. The space between the life you had and the life you’re meant to build next. It’s not meant to be rushed.
You’re Not Too Old, Too Late, or Too Much
Whether you're in Cape May, Philly, or anywhere else in the world—reinvention isn’t bound by age. You can begin again at 37, 42, 55… or whenever your soul says, now.
Your Feelings Are Valid, Even If No One Else Understands
You don’t need anyone else to cosign your unraveling. Trust your inner truth. The breakdown is often the doorway to the breakthrough.
Healing Happens in Layers… Not Timelines
Stop judging your healing by how fast you're "getting over it."
This isn’t a race. It’s a return—to yourself.
The Subconscious Shift That Changes Everything
The work I do isn’t surface-level.
I don’t give you a quick fix, a morning routine, or another list of things to do.
I help women do the deep subconscious work—to rewire old beliefs, process hidden grief, and reclaim the self they’ve buried beneath shoulds and expectations.
If you’re burned out from holding it all together...
If you’ve outgrown your life but feel scared to admit it...
If you’re tired of pretending…
You are exactly where you need to be.
How to Move Through the Unraveling (With Grace, Not Guilt)
Here’s a tool I give to my 1:1 clients and workshop participants:
The R.A.W. Practice (Recognize. Allow. Witness.)
Recognize what’s rising in you… emotionally, physically, mentally.
Allow space for it, without immediately fixing or silencing it.
Witness yourself with compassion, not judgment.
Do this once a day. 5 minutes.
Let your nervous system learn that your feelings are safe.
Whether You're New Jersey Local or Global - You’re Not Alone
Whether you’re sitting on a bench in Ocean City, walking the beaches of Avalon, stuck in Philly traffic, or curled up in bed in a city halfway across the globe…
Know this:
You don’t have to earn your rest.
You don’t have to explain your breakdown.
You don’t have to fix yourself to be worthy of love.
You are not behind.
You are right on time.
Ready to Rewrite Your Story?
I’m Abbey Sangmeister—therapist, life coach, and subconscious change expert for women unraveling, reinventing, and refusing to settle.
If you’re in the messy middle of becoming, I’d love to walk with you.
Book a free 30-minute Call
We’ll explore what’s coming undone, what’s trying to be born, and how you can move forward with soul, clarity, and power.
Or, come join a local workshop here in Cape May County or South Jersey, or dive into 1:1 subconscious coaching wherever you are in the world.
